What to Ask For at IEP Meetings
IEP meetings can feel daunting, especially for families new to the process. Coming prepared with specific requests — rather than waiting to see what the school proposes — leads to better outcomes. The following questions and requests are grounded in Ontario Ministry of Education guidelines and can be raised at any IEP meeting.
Specific, Measurable Goals
Every IEP goal must be specific and measurable, not vague. Reject goals like “will improve social skills” or “will demonstrate better focus.” Ask instead: “What specific skill are we targeting? How will progress be measured? What does success look like at the end of the year?” A well-written IEP goal specifies the skill, the conditions under which it will be demonstrated, and the measurable standard (e.g., “will independently request preferred items using a speech-generating device across 4 out of 5 trials in 3 separate settings”).
Named Accommodations
Ask that each accommodation be specifically named in the IEP — not described vaguely. Instead of “sensory breaks as needed,” request “three scheduled 10-minute sensory breaks per day, in a quiet space.” Named accommodations are enforceable. Useful accommodations for many autistic students include: extended time on assessments (typically 50-100% additional time), preferential seating away from high-traffic areas, use of noise-cancelling headphones, access to a quiet testing room, visual schedules posted at the student's workstation, chunked instructions with written or visual support, and movement breaks built into the day.
Transition Planning
Under Ontario's Education Act, students with exceptionalities must have a transition plan in their IEP beginning no later than age 14 (Grade 9). Transition planning addresses post-secondary pathways — university, college, apprenticeship, workplace, or community living. For autistic students, transition planning should address: post-secondary accommodations (connecting with disability services at colleges and universities), employment goals, independent living skills, and connection with adult services such as Developmental Services Ontario (DSO) if appropriate. Do not wait until Grade 9 to begin this conversation — earlier planning leads to better post-secondary outcomes.
ISSP Coordination
For students who also access Developmental Services Ontario (DSO) or other community services, the IEP should reference the Individual Support Services Plan (ISSP) and include coordination between the school and community service providers. Ask your school's special education resource teacher (SERT) whether your child's community service providers can be invited to IEP meetings — this cross-sector coordination is permitted and can significantly improve consistency of support across settings.